Divorce | The Covenant
Notes for Weeks 5 & 6 of The Covenant
The state of divorce in our culture today: roughly half of marriages end in divorce. Statistics can be deceptive, and if you do a lot of digging you can probably poke some holes in the research that has come up with these figures. But anyone with their eyes open knows that divorce happens A LOT. If divorce rates are falling a bit recently, that’s probably because more people are deciding not to even bother getting married.
Is it better in the Church? – depending on the study you look at, we’re either the same, or a little bit better than what’s going on in the world. My sense is that serious believers don’t get divorced quite as often, but is that what want……to be a LITTLE better than the world?
So is divorce just a modern problem?
Mark 10:2-9 And Pharisees came up and in order to test him asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” He answered them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.” And Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
I don’t know if this should scare us or comfort us, but these weren’t the heathen folks of the day asking for an excuse to get divorced, these were the RELIGIOUS leaders. So that impulse to want to check out when things get difficult must be pretty deeply ingrained in our souls.
Jesus takes them (and us) back to Creation, where God established marriage in the first place, as a reminder of what marriage is. As we learned before, God’s purpose in marriage is to reflect His love for humanity. That’s why He’s so concerned with it. If that’s the case, you need to be very careful before deciding to end your marriage. We won’t get into this here, but the allowances in the Bible for divorce are FEW, and even if those conditions exist, divorce is never commanded.
Here’s something to think about: God loves you beyond measure. If divorce were a good thing for you, He would tell you to do it. If He doesn’t want you to divorce, He has a good reason for that, even if the reason is not something you can see clearly now.